Have you even seen those people that look like someone styled them before they left their apartment? It’s like, “Hey man on the G train. That pocket square looks amazing with your matching wingtip shoes and polarized sunglasses.” There must be some level of organization and care that goes into that closet so that each piece can be perfectly paired with multiple other options. I’m not like this…
Most days I feel like I’m just running in my closet to find something that hasn’t been worn twice in one week. Or that I’m living out of a bag because I stood at my partner’s place for more than one night in a row. Even though I’m super into fashion, and feel like I am pretty good at making something out of nothing, most of the time I fall short of an outfit that’s uber-spectacular.
But then..there are those days I look amazing. It could be that the clothes worked perfectly, or my hair has the perfect amount of volume but not any frizz. Or that my red lipstick is bold enough to stand out, but not hitting at clown octave. Somedays, I look super hot.
That’s an incredibly hard thing for me to admit since I find that me being sexy is just some sort of comical joke. If I came out of a room wearing lingerie, I would have to break out in some sort of song and dance number so that I didn’t feel so exposed. Not to say that I am not sexy or that I shouldn’t wear lingerie (I totally should!) but that getting yourself in that mind-frame is not the easiest task. I’ve gotten so much better over the years, but I still need to check in with myself.
Here are some useful tricks I used to feel sexy right before a date, performance, or just walking down the street:
1. Brush your teeth during the day! It makes me want to smile more at night because I know that I don’t have to be conscious of what’s in my teeth.
3. Keep a compact in your bag—and right before your meeting, take it out, look into it, smile, and put it away. You don’t need to change anything…talk about a mindfuck to the people watching!
4. Recreate your favorite old-timey stance. Pretend you’re like that person, and admire the world around you. Every once in awhile I will pull a Marilyn, buy a bottle of Coca-Cola, and look at my surroundings…breathy voice and all.
5. Reconnect with your body throughout the day. Go in the bathroom and grab your thighs and think “Hey you’re still here!” Then move to your butt, then hips, then stomach, chest, shoulders, and neck. Sometimes we forget about all the things that are working in order for us to live our lives, and feeling sexy means that the mind and body need to be on the same page for you to believe it is true.
Is there something you do to feel sexy? Let us know! @ reply to LunaLuna on Twitter!
Image: This Is Marilyn
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Laura Delarato is a web producer, writer, social media consultant, and video creator in NYC. She has spent a lot of the past 10-years of her life in internships, college, part-time jobs, graduate school, and in front of a computer typing away her next brilliant idea. Her work has appeared in Playgirl Magazine, Kong Magazine, London Glossy Magazine…and at one time CosmoGirl! Magazine. Laura spends a lot of her time typing code for the web department of Details Magazine, performing improv at The Magnet Theater, and taking any burlesque class she can find. She was nominated for Best Series at The New School’s media department awards for her show: Fat Girl, A Web Series, which was also featured on the site LESGO-NYC as a new show to watch out for. When she is not fixing the internet, Laura likes to be a total badass by participating in body-positive/fat-acceptance activism, crafting pasties, discussing the
beauty of pornography, and wearing all the short skirts. @lauradelarato