Beauty / Feminism

I Don’t Wear Shapers

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Most of my outfits consist of a narrow high-waist. The fabric clinches and stretches to the rest of my body; forming a perfect hour glass and a round belly. I enjoy this look. I think it’s a perfect bit of vintage class and fuck you to everyone around me that thinks I should hide my belly.

Of course, this causes many ‘chivalrous’ moments from commuters on the train. If we are all taught that women aren’t suppose to be fat or have bellies, and you see one without any worry that her stomach is protruding from her mid-section…..what are you suppose to think?

“Would you like to sit down?” It’s normally said with a gesture of someone pointing to my stomach or rubbing their belly to mime my apparent pregnant one. It happens all the time, and these people are always so confused when I say no. I even had one woman look at everyone and say, “Well! I tried!”

I used to wear shapers when I was younger. It made me look thinner but it also made it really hard to breathe. As I got older, the idea of wearing a shaper became more foreign to me. I was so uncomfortable that it made my look more awkward then svelte. So, I gave them up.

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Everyone once in awhile I catch someone starring at my stomach wondering why I’m not trying to suck it in or cover it up. That paired with me constantly wearing a combination of slutty-professional attire—as I like to call it—confuses them. I’m a woman wearing form-fitting clothing/ relatively pretty and confident/ not hiding my stomach. None of that adds up.

For me it’s more about visibility that anything else. When I was stuck in the oversized-unflattering closet of my own self-hatred not too long ago, I would kill to see some hot chubby chick on the train not caring about what anyone thought of her body or outfit. Now, if I can be the one representation of body-positivity that a person sees during the day, then I’ve done my job. And that goes for when people ask me where I get my clothes…I proudly admit that it’s the plus size section so that it doesn’t become this taboo place that no one wants to go. I go there, and I’m happy about it.

And if you’re out there, and you’re reading this and say “Hey, I like shapers!” That’s phenomenal. Have you found one that you like? Or one that isn’t too constricting? Message us on the LunaLuna Facebook page or Tweet to us! Maybe you’ll be part of the next post!

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Laura Delarato is a web producer, writer, social media consultant, and video creator in NYC. She has spent a lot of the past 10-years of her life in internships, college, part-time jobs, graduate school, and in front of a computer typing away her next brilliant idea. Her work has appeared in Playgirl Magazine, Kong Magazine, London Glossy Magazine…and at one time CosmoGirl! Magazine. Laura spends a lot of her time typing code for the web department of Details Magazine, performing improv at The Magnet Theater, and taking any burlesque class she can find. She was nominated for Best Series at The New School’s media department awards for her show: Fat Girl, A Web Series, which was also featured on the site LESGO-NYC as a new show to watch out for. When she is not fixing the internet, Laura likes to be a total badass by participating in body-positive/fat-acceptance activism, crafting pasties, discussing the beauty of pornography, and wearing all the short skirts. @lauradelarato

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